Thursday, 22 January 2015

Favourite Quote of The Week #4 - Needs

“You will be your best self when you take time to understand what you really need, feel and want.”
Deborah Day, BE HAPPY NOW!

Wednesday, 21 January 2015

Self-assessment Quiz About Yourself

I love to take quiz. Just before I start my work today, I did some 10 minutes quiz about myself. Maybe you should try to, for fun. :)
Here is the link:

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Upholder.
Upholders respond readily to both outer and inner expectations: they meet deadlines and keep New Year’s resolutions without much struggle or supervision.
Upholders take great satisfaction from moving smoothly through their daily schedule and their to-do lists. They meet others’ expectations — and their expectations for themselves.
However, Upholders may feel uneasy when expectations aren’t clear, when they’re worried that they’re breaking the rules, or when they feel overwhelmed by expectations they seek to meet.
They enjoy habits, and form habits fairly easily.
NOTE: If the Upholder description doesn’t ring quite true to you, you may be an Obliger. Obligers often believe they’re Upholders, because both categories readily meet outer expectations. However, there’s a key difference. Upholders also meet inner expectations, while Obligers struggle to meet them. The key is: how easily do you meet an expectation to yourself? If that’s tough, you’re an Obliger.
I take myself as both - Upholder and Obliger. Why? Sometimes I struggle to meet my inner expectations and it frustrates me.

P/S: Who knows themselves well other than them themselves?

Monday, 19 January 2015

A Mom and Her 3 Kids

I have a son who is 11 years old, 32 and 14 months old toddlers both girls. When people around me asked if I would like to have another one, a boy perhaps I quickly said enough. Yeah, I had enough.

I believe in my whole life as a mother, I will always have the mummy guilt feeling. Just last night before bed, I feel guilty of not spending quality time with my boy. I know he is a big boy and can do almost everything by himself, I tend to let him be on his own. Play on his own most of the time, while I am occupied with my other 2 girls. My girls like to have hugging, story-telling and tickling session on our bed every night. When boy came into the room, he joined too. There's one time he just looked at us all playing together. He had this left-behind kind of look.

And that look makes me sad.

I told myself as a mother I failed in giving equal attention to my children. I wonder how do other mothers who have more kids handle this. I am the kind of mother who wants to be there, to attend to my every child needs. I want to have a unique relationship with each one of them. I want to be the perfect mother, when I know.. they just want their mother to be normal and listen. Don't make it so hard Fara!

I remember one day I totally shut him down when he was telling me about something while my youngest is pulling my leg. I feel bad. I went to his room and said I was sorry. And it made me feel really bad when he said, it's OK mom I know you're busy. I don't want this to happen when one day, he stops telling me about his day or he stops talking to me because I don't listen and give him the chance.

Maybe I should not think too much about this mummy guilt. It doesn't take me anywhere, right? I should act. Fast.

They said, spend time with your kids when you still have time. You don't know when will be your last or when they are married and have kids, you will miss the moment. True!

P/S: Chill dear self. Parenting doesn't have manual. Learn.

Thursday, 15 January 2015

School Homework

There are times I had to pinch myself to realize that I have a son who is going to be a teenager. This year he is 11 years old. What the heck? Didn't I just gave birth to him in 2004? Hoi Fara! That was long time ago. You gave birth recently in 2013. You have 3 kids.

Now since he is in standard 5, he noticed that his homework is no longer getting easy. He told me he needs to concentrate doing his homework because he is in the first class. *roll eyes* And he even told us to quickly send him to Cambridge class. His English teacher told the students they need to speak in full English during the lesson. Panic attack.

The day before he had difficulties in solving his Bahasa Melayu homework. He asked me and I said I do not know.

"Didn't you go to school and learn this before?"

How dare he? Grrrr! I told him I left standard 5 for 23 years. I don't even remember what I learned for algebra! Until now I do not know which part of my life that algebra applies.

He laughed at me and said.. "Mom, you're getting old."
Yes son I do realized that. Thank you for reminding me.

We are living in the IT world aren't we? So I googled the answer. Yeah google helped me a lot in finding answers to boy's homework. How am I supposed to remember and know what Kata Sendi is? Or what is Imbuhan Pinjaman? If it is Maths and English, yes I do not need google much. I may need to buy extra book for Tatabahasa Bahasa Melayu later on.

P/S: Maybe if I am a BM teacher it wouldn't be so hard isn't it? Heh.

Favourite Quote of The Week #3 2015 - School Homework

“The worst thing a kid can say about homework is that it is too hard. The worst thing a kid can say about a game is it's too easy.”
Henry Jenkins


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