Friday, 28 January 2011

January 2011 - What Have You Done?

Another three days January going to end. We heard it many times, 'How time flies'. Yes, it sure does. There were lots of things happened, until to the extend I cried.. in my heart too. Cried because of pain and how I felt weak inside of me.

My kiddo started his standard one. A new experience for him and to both of us. The early morning wake up, making breakfast, drove here and there, sending and picking him on time. And Mr. Fruitheart, had his new position that makes him busier than before. Not enough attention?  Somehow I am used to it already.

And, me.. I had miscarriage. Had to undergo surgery and one month MC until February. I posted an entry about it, few weeks back. Now I am getting better, and had been working from home for a week. Yeah, my work just won't let me rest. It missed me a lot.

Not forgetting, my mother who has been sick and admitted to hospital too for few days. She had trouble breathing, and she is going for a surgery sometime in March. Hope everything goes well.

Despite all the bad news, challenges we still have good news. Of course!

My father had started to build a new house. It is still in progress. Finally, my parents have a home of their own. And we have a brand new car.. yippie! It's purple, Alza. Just arrived today. Not forgetting, we have increased our savings. Yay! Discipline is all what we need and we can go for holiday to Singapore in May, insyaAllah.

A friend of mine told me, "everything and anything that happen in our lives has a reason. God has better plans for us. Always be thankful"

Monday, 24 January 2011

Our Panic Attack

Last Saturday it was school day for my kiddo. Replacement leave for CNY 3rd-4th Feb and Federal Territory Day 1st Feb. As usual, early morning we sent him to SRA, and then we both had breakfast date at Oldtown. Such a long time we had not dating. After breakfast we went to market and bought some groceries.

Made soup for my mother. She was admitted to the Serdang Hospital since Thursday. She had problem breathing. So after we had our lunch, we went to visit her.

We left the hospital around 5.30pm. Lucky there was no traffic congestion and we reached the school at 6.15pm. I waited inside the car. Mr. Fruitheart went to look for our son. He came back with a worried face. He told me the guard had informed him, school ends 6pm. And, my kiddo was no where to be seen.


Me and Mr. Fruitheart run here and there looking for him. Gosh, where could he be? If he went home, who picked him up? OMG! I lost my son. Despite the pain I had, I walked fast and kept on holding my tummy. I must hold on, I told myself. Tears on my eyes. I called home, my MIL said no he's not there. I called the neighbour if he had followed them home, no her daughter didn't go to school. I was even worried.

There were two three teachers there and they also asked around and helped us looking for him. They had asked questions, and even the guard man had told he did saw our kid.

Soon, my MIL called. She said my kiddo just arrived. THANK GOD! Another neighbour had sent him home. His daughter was in the same class as my kiddo. Gosh, he should have called us. we were worried to the max. Lots of things came to my mind, who would've kidnapped him?

OK, lesson learned.

Come early, wait for them. Don't let them wait for you especially when it is their first year schooling.
Let them know, where to wait.
Exchange phone number with your neighbour. In case something happen. Yeah, like in this situation.
Lastly, relax. Don't think negative.

Yeah la, easy type and said. When it happens for real, all those above are forgotten.

Sunday, 23 January 2011

Few Simple Ways To Make Your Wife Happy

"If your wife's not happy, then NOBODY's happy."

There are some truth in it, agree? Hehe.. Yes I do. Marriage is definitely challenging. It takes a lot of effort, compromise, patience and considering each other's feeling.
  • Always tell your wife that you love them.
  • Give your wife presents, not necessarily the expensive one.
  • Once in awhile, help your wife to take care of the kids and let her rest.
  • Cook her favourite dishes, if you're good in cooking.
  • Help your wife to do house chores.
  • Always hug and kiss your wife.
  • When your wife is angry, let her cool down.
  • Don't ever forget the special dates in your life.
  • If your wife ask for your opinion, answer honestly.
  • Once in a while, give your wife light massage on the shoulder especially after she is tired doing house chores.
  • Do the things that your wife likes and leave the things that she doesn't likes.
  • No matter how busy you are, always spare some time with your wife.

When you're happy and healthy, everyone in your family learn to be happy and healthy too.

Image credit to Google

Thursday, 20 January 2011

After Surgery.. Things Changed

It has been one week. I feel much better, less pain. Still can't walk faster or frequently climb up and down the stairs, pain on and off if I sit for a long time or lay down doing nothing too.

Yesterday I went for check up and the doc removed the bandage. The cut was about 2 inch. He scanned my tummy and everything is clear, I am OK. Both of us really glad to hear that. He advised us if we wanted to have a baby again, we need to wait after two or three months. He also said, it could happen again and there's nothing we can do to prevent. It's just that we're unlucky. Well, that do scares me though. I hope after three months, I am able to conceive and it goes smoothly. InsyAllah.

Since I can't do much, Mr. Fruitheart had took over my task. He's the father and mother for my kiddo. He makes breakfast, wake him up, makes sure his clothes are all ironed, school bag, books..OK almost everything. He is really helpful although he has TOO MANY work in the office. Thank you Sayang.

Not forgetting my mother in law who had help with our laundry. I think if we live separately, we would've sent it to laundry shop and eat outside everyday until the end of medical leave day.

My kiddo too has been really good boy. He hold my hands whenever I want to walk and climb up/down the stairs. He even told me to be careful and be good like I used to said to him. Clever boy.

I remembered the day I was in real pain he had asked 'Mom, you have a baby?' I have a feelings maybe he knew, oh well children with their imagination and sixth sense hehe.. He was mad and angry when I told him the doc had cut his mother's tummy and the baby was no longer there. I know he wanted a baby brother and sister so bad. He even said, 'pity me. I still don't have brother or sister.'

I am heartbroken hearing him say that. Mummy and daddy are trying their best son.

Monday, 17 January 2011

Miscarriage.. It's Not The Time Yet To Have A Baby - Part II

The doc confirmed that I am pregnant. He asked us if we know about it. Seriously doc, NO we don't know. I did not have any sign of pregnancy. No nausea, dizzy, morning sickness nothing. He told us to wait for the gynae doc to check, because of the bleeding it could be something else. We both were shocked and this is so unexpected. I was wondering if my period was actually bleeding?

I was given pain killer to lessen the pain. Boy that was really helpful, if not I had to hold and kept on squeezing my right tummy. After a while waiting, came the gynae doc. He asked few questions, and said he wanted to do some scanning. We were anxious and nervous. Positive, I am seven weeks pregnant. OMG!

Unfortunately, it was ectopic pregnancy. Also, the doc told us he couldn't find the baby's heart beat and it looks like the embryo is not healthy. The period that I thought, I was bleeding actually. I was given another injection to, and I think it was my fifth. I was admitted to the hospital that night.

The next morning, the doc scan again to double confirmed. Ectopic pregnancy and miscarriage, and he had to do D&C. He also told me, there could be minor surgery to took it out. I cried. He had schedule a session at 10. I was back at my room. Given the green dress. As I sat down beside my husband, I cried again. He told me.. 'it's not our time yet to have the baby.. We can still try again. There are always another chance. Don't give up.'

The time has come. The nurse came around 11.15am and I was pushed to the operation room. Mr. Fruitheart by my side. It was 11.30am when I was in the operation theater when the doc said.. 'we'll get you to sleep OK. It will be alright.' Yeah right doc, I know I will be in pain after the surgery.

I only saw people went for opeation in ER and Grey's Anatomy and House. And now it happened to me,for real.. after 30 years. First surgery in my life. Gosh!

I woke up around 1.15pm. My body aching and my tummy hurts. Mr. Fruitheart and my small man were waiting in the room. Glad to see their face. Soon after that, I was asleep. Tired. I had not eaten since Wednesday night. I don't feel hungry at all, scared most of the time. Thank God it was over. My in laws came to visit in the afternoon. Doc came to visit from time to time to see how I was doing. First time surgery and second time admitted to the hospital, it's not a good experienced. No one wants to be sick right?

The next morning, I feel a bit better. The pain was not as much as yesterday. I told Mr. Fruitheart I wanted to go home. The more I stayed in the hospital, the more sicker (don't know if it's correct word) I'd be. The doc came and said if I feel much better, then I can go home in the afternoon. Yippie!

I was dischaged soon after that. Glad I can go home. Doc gave me one month medical leave. Should I enjoy it? Of course! Mr. Fruitheart said he gave me one week and after that I will be complaining. Bored, nothing to do, sleeping all day.. bla.. bla.. bla.. Hmm.. maybe dear.

Miscarriage.. It's Not The Time Yet To Have A Baby - Part I

I had period again after a week. It only stopped for two days. I thought it could be for few days. Don't feel any abdomen pain or anything. Since last two months my period flow was not on schedule and late for two weeks which I thought I was pregnant. So I assume it might be the balance of it. Wrong!

After the fifth day there's no sign of it getting lesser. We went to the clinic for check up. The lady Doc told me there's nothing wrong with me, and she did scanned my tummy. She gave me medicine to stopped the flow. I told her I was concerned because this was the first time it happened. Previously it was normal. She said I am still young and there should nothing to worry about if I am trying to conceive again. Maybe I think too much. Yeah, maybe.

Well after taking the medicine for about four days, it doesn't stopped the period flow. I felt pain near my abdomen and told Mr. Fruitheart if the pain doesn't go away, I want to check up again.

On Wednesday, since at work the pain getting worse. On and off. I couldn't stand it anymore after I climbed up the stairs to my room. My right abdomen aching and cramped. I put some oil, but the pain won't go away. I cried. That means I couldn't handle the pain any longer. Mr. Fruitheart brought me to the clinic, different one and the doc suspected I had appendix. Or.. It could be something else. He advise us to go the hospital right away after he took some note about the pain I had and prepared the letter.

Went to KPJ Tawakal. The nurse asked me to lay down and did the basic check up. She took my blood, temperature and urine for testing. The first doctor came and said it could be appendix. He said wait for another doctor to check, couldn't remember he was specialist on what. He also said wait for another doctor. It was 8.30pm that time.

Then the first doctor came back and said.. 'You're pregnant'

Haaaa???!!!! We both looked at each other speechless.

Wednesday, 12 January 2011

Story Of A Seven Year Old - Part I

Yesterday, when after we reached home and freshed ourselves our small man as usual were in the room and started to opened up his stories. He is sure one talkative young man! Like his mother.. hehe. Since he started schooling, he have stories to tell us.. everyday.

Syahmie: Mama, daddy.. tadi ade kawan kite suruh kite cakap english.
Daddy: Die suruh Syahmie cakap ape?
Syahmie: Die cakap, eh.. cube cakap English. Pastu saye cakap, 'Wow, nice car'. (with his American accent)
Mama and Daddy: Muahahahaha..
Mama: Lepas cakap tu budak tu cakap ape?
Syahmie: Die cakap.. wahhh.. lari-lari, die kate dekat kawan die. Pastu die pegi la dengan kawan die.

Both of us looked at each other and smile. Sometimes, there are words that we didn't expect him to say. Like for today, during breakfast.. he said SUCK.

I was like, whoa.. where could he had heard that, I wonder. Yeah, TV. Too much Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Handy Manny, high School Musical.

Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Taekwondo Lesson

Last Saturday, my small man had his first taekwondo lesson. Yeah, we enrolled him as early as week one once he had started schooling. Excited parents huh? Hehe.. just to make him busy and filled in his boring schedule, that's all. Haha.. controlling mother I am.

Only the two of them don't have proper attire
Registration RM60, since his parents did not bring enough money, we had to buy his taekwondo uniform next week. RM80! Quite expensive. Lucky, he was OK when we told him he could wear the shirt and pants he was wearing and promised we will buy next week. Usually, he don't want to wait. He's being good and tolerant.. Good boy!

Ready for action
I thought of sending him to learn taekwondo because I wanted to discipline him more and to cry less. I don't want my son be called a cry baby. I know he is very sensitive, and easily cried. For now I think that is one of the way to do it. Hope it worked.

His lesson starts from 5.30pm to 6.30pm every Saturday at his school. So, we had to reschedule our outing and going back to Salak Tinggi. I feel like learning it too, the problem is I have to steal some of my 'BUSY' mummy and wife time. Housework and tired and sleep what else.

We advised him, he will only use his skills to bad naughty people who bullied him, not to good people. Don't want him to be a bully instead and abuse his power and knowledge. So far, he listens. Thank GOD!

On 1.11.11 at 11.11

What's special about today? It's not my birthday, or our anniversary. Not also any special celebration. A friend of mine told me to look at the date today.. it's 1.11.11. I said yeah, nice number. Nothing extraordinary, or special. She said, oh come on girl.. do something special la then. Like what?? Suddenly, go to KLCC and buy new gadget for Mr. Fruitheart? Yeah, like that's gonna happen.

Plus, she said look at the date and time.. 1.11.11 @ 11.11 am. Huh! She's too obsessed with numbers. Haha.. that's what I told her.

I guess if it's weekend, there will be lots of couple getting married, or engaged. So, I guess there will be nothing special on this date and time for me.

Oh and one thing that I know, Britney Spears has launched her new song.. 'Hold It Againts Me' and was playing that song as they were mentioning she will perform during Grammy's. Maybe that's special about it? Maybe.

Monday, 10 January 2011

By Himself

Today I started to work after 1 week off. Seriously, I am so lazy and honestly I don't want to work anymore. Yeah all of my families and my friends knows it already. But I am still working and complaining and yeah blogging about it. Sorry, my new year resolution does not include working hard.

Today also, my son will be spending his recess during both morning and afternoon school either by himself or with his new friends. I know he will be OK. All I hope, he will take care of himself and behave.

Last week we had bought him KFC as promised because he didn't cry on Friday at all. Bravo! Bravo! He is OK by himself actually, only when his mother is around he acted a little bit spoil. Hehe.. Mummy's boy that is so correct.

Thursday, 6 January 2011

Chocolate! Chocolate!

Attention! Serious chocolate lovers, chocoholics and chocolate connoisseurs, chocolate importers/distributors and agents, chocolate makers and general public, it's time for chocolate again. Superb!

Remember my previous entry about chocolate fair in JB? No?? Aww.. how sad.

Now, the fair is in KL. Wohoo!

Check it out:

Malaysia 4th Chocolate Fair 2011
Incorporating Sweets & Confectionery Malaysia

Venue: Hall 2, Mid Valley Exhibition Centre, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Date: 7th to 9th January 2011 (Friday to Sunday)
Time: 11.00am to 9.00pm daily

It has been told, The Professional Section will cater for the serious culinary chef, the chocolatier, bakers, retailers, small and medium sized entrepreneurs, etc.

The Consumer Section will have our highly successful Malaysia Chocolate Fair, showcasing new and exciting local & international brands of chocolate plus lots of our favourites.

So, if you happen to be going to Mid Valley, do drop by at the exhibition. See you there, I am sure I will be one of the chocolate lovers to be there.

For the love of chocolate.. Chocolate is the best when it melts so creamy and soft in your mouth and it slides down your throat. Nice!

Tuesday, 4 January 2011

Food Review: Marciano, The Day Before The 2010 Ends

On the last day of 2010, which is a Public Holiday in Malaysia, Malaysia won the AFF Suzuki Cup! Yay!! ('dah basi dah').. we had family dinner at Marciano, Jalan Ampang. Bored of 'tomyam' and seafood. It's time for western food.

We don't have any plans at all, what to do or where to go. Because we know, there will be lots of concert going on, and for sure some road will be on massive traffic congestion.

This is what we've ordered.. Yummy! 3 out of 5.

My portion, chicken grilled

My small man's portion

Mr. Fruitheart's portion
Sorry, I couldn't remember the names. Busy eating and enjoying our food. We totally had fun on our family dinner.

After dinner, we went to Starbucks. Had some ice blended mocha frappucino. Owh cool! Me and Mr. Fruitheart had our movie marathon: Little Fockers and Life As We Know It; until 2.30am with Mr. Fruitheart. A good night to end 2010 and welcoming 2011, with my family.

Monday, 3 January 2011

My First Day Back to School After 13 Years

Monday, January 3rd 2011.. Has been marked as the first day I went back to school after 13 years. Can you believe that? No?? It's true, OK. Well, it's actually my small man's first day went to school. The big boys and girls school. No more kindergarten. So it is true I also went to school to sent, picked him up and waited for him at the canteen. Difference is, I did not wear white and blue uniform.

I was nervous! And, I did cried. Shame on me. Because my small man cried too when we left him during his morning school session at SRA. I didn't expect him to cry though. But, I do understand. There were other kids who worse than my son.

First day started, he don't have the problem to get up early morning. Phew! Woke him up at 6am, but he's a bit grumpy and cranky when I talked a lot early morning, asking him to do this and that. Well, I am a woman and a mother. So I wanted it to be smooth and err.. perfect.

Morning school outfit
After breakfast, left the house at 7am. We don't want to stucked in traffic and wanted to adapt the new routine when he started schooling. We waited until 8am since we do not know which class he will be in. The teacher had called students name one by one, and until now.. I don't remember which class he's in. He cried when we left him. Aww.. poor my baby. We didn't stay until recess, and came back when the morning school ends, at 1030am.

It was his first time riding the school bus, and he was OK with it. Unlike one child who had screamed to her mother. We decided to let him stay at a transit house near the SK school. It would be easier as other kids which going to the same school will also be there. So, he would have friends.

After showing him which house he will be staying and paid the fee, we headed home. Had lunch and bath, we sent him to the afternoon school session at 1pm. So far I had not hear any complaints that he is tired.

They had assembly, and I left him for a while and sent Mr. Fruitheart to work. It has been a very busy day for both of us. I took 1 week off.. Hehe. Had to help practising my small man to familiarize with all of the new things he had to do on his own from now on.

I came back around 2.30pm. Passed the books and told my small man I will be waiting at the canteen. He had his recess at 3.10pm. I was looking for him and he was looking for me too. Haha.. Oh boy he cried when he didn't see me. Very 'manja'. Bought him chocolate doughnut and waited for him until finished. After recess, they had to queue up again to go back to their classes. I told him I will be picking him up at 6.30pm, he smiled and said OK. He even said, don't forget me mama.

And here I am, blogging about my first day back to school after 13 years. How do I feel? Exhausted! I know now I had to give more attention to my small man. He's getting bigger and the more responsible I have to give in. Going to be ready to pick him up, and later Mr. Fruitheart from work. I am the driver for this week.

He dreamed of driving this Porche

Saturday, 1 January 2011

2011: Happy New Year

Happy New Year 2011!

Image credit to bigstock

01.01.11 what a nice number, well it is just another day another year.. as usual. The first Saturday of the year and I know there will be a lot of couples got married today too. Oh, Congratulations yea! May you have a great marriage life. And to all.. have a great year ahead and wonderful life.

Some of new year's quote:

Youth is when you're allowed to stay up late on New Year's Eve. Middle age is when you're forced to. - By Bill Vaughn

Drop the last year into the silent limbo of the past. Let it go, for it was imperfect, and thank God that it can go. -Brooks Atkinson

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day. -Edith Lovejoy Pierce