Thursday, 29 January 2015

365 Days Smoke Free

I am so proud of my husband right now. Today is his 365 days smoke free. Yay! He finally made it. One of his resolution and health achievement.


He admit that it was hard to do it. When we have a habit, it become harder for us to stop doing it especially the bad ones. But with determination and courage, he made it. And today, being a the good wife I treat him for lunch.

We had our little celebration with a colleague joined us at Ben's KLCC. Everyone has been asking what's his secret. One of my friend even tagged his husband on the status I posted so his husband can see that yes people can quit smoking. HAHA.

All I can say is hard work, high determination and a lot of encouragement from your partner. (Yeah, that statement!)

For my husband, when he decided to quit smoking he did it slowly. 2 or 3 ciggie a day. Once he can control, 1 ciggie a day. Not long after that no ciggie on any day. And at the same time, he started working out. That is to distract him from thinking about smoking. You need to find an activity. He mentioned whenever he is stressed out the urge to smoke is so high. So back home, he went to the gym and let it all out there. Different people different kind of ways he said.

Today, he is slimmer with 75KG and smoke free man! He is planning to get 70KG. I know he can do it. Like he always did.

P/S: Appreciation.

Favourite Quote of The Week #5 2015 - Force


“I don't know you well enough to force stuff on you."

"You mean, if you knew me better, you'd force stuff on me like everybody else?"

"It's possible," I said. "That's how people live in the real world: forcing stuff on each other."

"You wouldn't do that. I can tell. I'm an expert when it comes to forcing stuff and having stuff forced on you. You're just not that type. That's why I can relax with you. Do you have any idea how many people there are in the world who like to force stuff on people and have stuff forced on them? Tons! And then they make a big fuss, like, 'I forced her,' 'You forced me'! That's what they like. But I don't like it. I just do it 'cause I have to.”
Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood

Thursday, 22 January 2015

Favourite Quote of The Week #4 2015 - Needs

“You will be your best self when you take time to understand what you really need, feel and want.”
Deborah Day, BE HAPPY NOW!

Wednesday, 21 January 2015

Self-assessment Quiz About Yourself

I love to take quiz. Just before I start my work today, I did some 10 minutes quiz about myself. Maybe you should try to, for fun. :)
 
Here is the link: https://www.surveygizmo.com/s3/1950137/Four-Tendencies-January-2015


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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Upholder.
 
Upholders respond readily to both outer and inner expectations: they meet deadlines and keep New Year’s resolutions without much struggle or supervision.
 
Upholders take great satisfaction from moving smoothly through their daily schedule and their to-do lists. They meet others’ expectations — and their expectations for themselves.
However, Upholders may feel uneasy when expectations aren’t clear, when they’re worried that they’re breaking the rules, or when they feel overwhelmed by expectations they seek to meet.
 
They enjoy habits, and form habits fairly easily.
 
NOTE: If the Upholder description doesn’t ring quite true to you, you may be an Obliger. Obligers often believe they’re Upholders, because both categories readily meet outer expectations. However, there’s a key difference. Upholders also meet inner expectations, while Obligers struggle to meet them. The key is: how easily do you meet an expectation to yourself? If that’s tough, you’re an Obliger.
 
I take myself as both - Upholder and Obliger. Why? Sometimes I struggle to meet my inner expectations and it frustrates me.

P/S: Who knows themselves well other than them themselves?

Monday, 19 January 2015

A Mom and Her 3 Kids

I have a son who is 11 years old, 32 and 14 months old toddlers both girls. When people around me asked if I would like to have another one, a boy perhaps I quickly said enough. Yeah, I had enough.

I believe in my whole life as a mother, I will always have the mummy guilt feeling. Just last night before bed, I feel guilty of not spending quality time with my boy. I know he is a big boy and can do almost everything by himself, I tend to let him be on his own. Play on his own most of the time, while I am occupied with my other 2 girls. My girls like to have hugging, story-telling and tickling session on our bed every night. When boy came into the room, he joined too. There's one time he just looked at us all playing together. He had this left-behind kind of look.

And that look makes me sad.

I told myself as a mother I failed in giving equal attention to my children. I wonder how do other mothers who have more kids handle this. I am the kind of mother who wants to be there, to attend to my every child needs. I want to have a unique relationship with each one of them. I want to be the perfect mother, when I know.. they just want their mother to be normal and listen. Don't make it so hard Fara!

I remember one day I totally shut him down when he was telling me about something while my youngest is pulling my leg. I feel bad. I went to his room and said I was sorry. And it made me feel really bad when he said, it's OK mom I know you're busy. I don't want this to happen when one day, he stops telling me about his day or he stops talking to me because I don't listen and give him the chance.

Maybe I should not think too much about this mummy guilt. It doesn't take me anywhere, right? I should act. Fast.

They said, spend time with your kids when you still have time. You don't know when will be your last or when they are married and have kids, you will miss the moment. True!

P/S: Chill dear self. Parenting doesn't have manual. Learn.

Thursday, 15 January 2015

School Homework

There are times I had to pinch myself to realize that I have a son who is going to be a teenager. This year he is 11 years old. What the heck? Didn't I just gave birth to him in 2004? Hoi Fara! That was long time ago. You gave birth recently in 2013. You have 3 kids.

Now since he is in standard 5, he noticed that his homework is no longer getting easy. He told me he needs to concentrate doing his homework because he is in the first class. *roll eyes* And he even told us to quickly send him to Cambridge class. His English teacher told the students they need to speak in full English during the lesson. Panic attack.

The day before he had difficulties in solving his Bahasa Melayu homework. He asked me and I said I do not know.

"Didn't you go to school and learn this before?"

How dare he? Grrrr! I told him I left standard 5 for 23 years. I don't even remember what I learned for algebra! Until now I do not know which part of my life that algebra applies.

He laughed at me and said.. "Mom, you're getting old."
Yes son I do realized that. Thank you for reminding me.

We are living in the IT world aren't we? So I googled the answer. Yeah google helped me a lot in finding answers to boy's homework. How am I supposed to remember and know what Kata Sendi is? Or what is Imbuhan Pinjaman? If it is Maths and English, yes I do not need google much. I may need to buy extra book for Tatabahasa Bahasa Melayu later on.

P/S: Maybe if I am a BM teacher it wouldn't be so hard isn't it? Heh.

Favourite Quote of The Week #3 2015 - School Homework

“The worst thing a kid can say about homework is that it is too hard. The worst thing a kid can say about a game is it's too easy.”
Henry Jenkins

Monday, 12 January 2015

TAWC - First Make A Head Meals for 2015

I was supposed to make big batch of frozen meals on the new year's week, but was ill. First time I had tonsillitis and high fever and it was the worse one. So I made my frozen meals on last Sunday.

Every time it will always be chicken, beef and veggies. No fish. I have tried making fish meals and froze them, but after reheat it doesn't taste that good. The fresh taste is gone. So I have to cook it on the day when we wanted to eat it.


I made chicken curry ( 3 packs) , chicken kurma (4 packs), daging masak hitam (3 packs), sambal ikan bilis (4 packs) and bayam (4 packs).

I chopped off everything as early as 8am when both my girls were still sleeping. Sure there were disturbance in between, run here and there to do other stuff. Multitasking. I started cooking at 11am and finished everything including cleaning the mess I made at 1PM. My whole half day spent in the kitchen! So called me time. Heh.

I have to think what fish to cook in between those days. If talking about easy, I just can buy from the food court. Save my time.

Below are the links where I got my recipes:
Kari ayam tanpa santan
Daging masak hitam
Ayam masak kurma
Sambal tumis ikan bilis sama petai (I made without the petai)

Bayam? It is so easy I don't need a recipe for that. HEHE.

As you can see most of my recipe I took from Dapur Tanpa Sempadan where the owner is a MAN! And the second blog I visited the most for recipe is azlitamasammanis.

It was my first time making daging masak hitam, and I am glad that Mr. Fruitheat liked it. I am happy my freezer is full again. 2 weeks meals for the family is DONE.

P/S: I wanted to try the English version of crock pot/slow cooker meals. But will my boy the picky eater eat it?

Wednesday, 7 January 2015

Killing Temptation

I have this problem which I know most of us do - temptation. Especially when it comes to "THINGS". The one thing I desire now is iPhone 6. Heck, that's not new.. duhhh.

Let me ask you, how do you actually kill a temptation? How do you make something not be as tempting as they are? Can you simply not give in after long time?

Mr. Fruitheart is also very interested in iPhone 6 Plus. We've been in and out of the store couple of times. But every time, we managed to NOT BUY it. Bravo to us.. for now.
And today we had this conversation about iPhone 6 again. Mr. Fruitheart has been into the Maxis website I do not know for how many times and looked at the plans they offered. It is obviously tempting he said, because he kept opening it. HAHA.

We made a deal which I know he is weak at it - seeing the money lessen. As agreed, we paid extra for our credit card and thank GOD.. we only have less than RM500 to pay for next month. I am still happy because we managed to cover all our expenses, paid our bills, add our emergency savings and still have unallocated money. Alhamdulillah. An achievement I am proud of my husband for managing our financial very well this time. HEHE.

It is just not about iPhone. There are other things I want. Ahh.. WANT vs NEEDS. Where are you good articles about managing your WANTS vs NEEDS when you need one??

P/S: We are still getting the iPhone 6 by the way, just not today. Heh.

Tuesday, 6 January 2015

2015 Personal Commandments

It sounds the same like resolution huh? I don't have any new year resolution since 2010. I wrote this personal commandments in Dec 2010. My Eleven Personal Commandments. OH MY GOD! I haven't had any new ones for almost 4 years. I might have few resolution this year - saving, continue study and attend cooking class (Like seriously Fara?) And I am also updating my new personal commandments.
 
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Face each problem as it comes.
I can only handle it one at a time anyway, right?

Be a good listener.
Sometimes I am so bad at listening especially with my children.

Count my blessings and appreciate.
Always.

ME time.
A few minutes for myself is not a selfish act, right? Gotta love myself more.

P/S: Live beneath our means.

Monday, 5 January 2015

Our Short Stay and Outing During New Year

I haven't been into the office for almost a week. Heh, like it's something new. HAHA. I love it when I am not the office. Like I said, "some things just aren't enjoyable anymore."

We had our first short stay for 1 night at Royale Chulan Damansara. Just near home and about 10 mins drive. Plus, it is within our budget. We wanted the children to have some fun outside of home. Yes, all my 3 children loves to stay at the hotel. My girl has been asking us why we stayed there and where we are going. While my baby girl, she enjoyed exploring the room and played hide and seek behind the curtains.


Yeah, mommy doesn't allow them to play hide and seek behind the curtains at home.

As I was recovering from my tonsillitis and little wounds near my nose and on my mouth, I had to cover it using the face mask. Leceh betul la! Mr. Fruitheart remind me, it's all from Allah and I should not whine. If I remembered it correctly, I had my last fever few years back. 2 years ago? Sekali sakit, ha teruk kau dia bagi.

I didn't had the chance to snap pictures of the hotel. Only few pictures of the family.

 
They admire the huge and small Christmas tree everywhere. Above were the ones at the hotel lobby.
 
Boy just love the Lego shop at eCurve. Who doesn't?


We had a good lunch at Bubba Gump. It was challenging to have a baby and a toddler on the table. They won't sit still. After lunch, we checked in at the hotel at 2PM. A nice big room facing another building. HEHE. No beach or garden view. Concrete walls.

We rest for an hour and later on did a little shopping for children. Where else, OU. We had Subway and sushi for dinner. They were asleep by 11PM. Phew!
 
Family pose after breakfast.

So the next day, after checked out we went to KL Bird Park.

 
Lots of peacock.

Love birds.

We sure have lots of fun especially our children. Even for a short time. They just need to be close to their parents.


Daddy, you may kiss me when I'm little. Not in front of my friends. I have a reputation, OK?
P/S: Next will be Sunway Lagoon Resort Hotel. InsyAllah.

Thursday, 1 January 2015

Favourite Quote of The Week #1 2015 - New Year

“MOTHER TIME: Every New Year is the same. Every day, every second is too for that matter. But when we deliver them in secret, when another year just begins as a matter of fact, it's easy to fail to appreciate what a miracle it is to have more time. So, I suppose, it feels different right now because this time you're paying attention”
Hillary DePiano, New Year's Thieve

2015: Happy New Year

Well hello there 2015.. Do you know that you came way too fast?

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

May the gift of love, happiness, peace, and warmth be yours as you make a new start. And not to forget, may this year bring in loads of joy, fun, good luck, fortune, success and lots of love.

I wish this year has lesser disasters, lesser hate, lesser accidents and loads of love. We sure need lots of those.

 
 
End this post with a quote as always..
 
“The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege.” - Charles Kuralt
 
P/S: I will need a LOT of positive vibes everyday.